Reflections on the Big Day

I am now a married man!  I tried to think of a good introduction for this post and this was the best I could come up with.  It was a small wedding (sorry to those who were not invited) and by all accounts things went well on the day. It has been a few weeks since the wedding and many have asked me if anything is different.  I’ve always responded by saying that things are pretty much the same, since we have been living together for quite some time but I must admit that there are some differences, not in the way we live but rather in the way I think about us.  Being married has changed the way I feel about my responsibilites.  I do feel additional pressure to be more of a partner and provider. I have never believed in traditional gender roles where the male is the sole provider and the female the homemaker, but being married has made me think more about our future together (the use of OUR rather than my has started to enter my conciousness) and thus my career.  Generally the pursuit of the all mighty dollar has played a rather small role in my life and thus I have been stuck at a rather dead end job that has not been finacially rewarding.  But I now feel that I have to think not only about myself, but my wife (that is still strange to write) and I realize that things have to change. I think I have refused to admit that I was growing up and if the marriage did change anything it is that it has made me realize that I needed to change.

~ by oreogeek on September 14, 2008.